What 2017 Taught Me


Trang’s here !! A new year has begun, at last ! And to honest, I was going to review The Diviners by Libba Bray but, I want to talk about something else.

It’s a new year after all and during this whole year, I had the chance to reflect on a few things.

I’m only 23 years old but you know what I noticed? I lose my friends faster than anything else. It’s not like they are bad people or something. I just come to realize, some people are meant to stay but others are just periodic. Just growing apart of personalities for example or not having the same values and goals anymore. For one, I know that all the friends I keep in my circle now are the ones who are low-maintenance. I don’t need to talk to them every single day to know that they care about and vice versa. Everyone’s busy but whenever we meet up, it’s like nothing has changed.

This year was tough but one thing I learned that, even through EXHAUSTION, I should always put myself first. And that means, putting this blog second too. I’ve been working way too much and with university, that didn’t help. But, when that happens I had to choose them before blogging, I have to apologize for my absence and lack of replying to comments for the month of December. I had to keep myself away from the social media and blogging platform altogether to simply enjoy the only 2 days of holidays that I’m actually free, have some rest and spend time with my family. I had to work on Christmas Day so that shows you much work that research needs to be done LOL

One of the most important things I’ve learned this year is to chase after your dreams, and TO NEVER GIVE UP.  I’ve made so many mistakes and had some major failures. However, you must face them. You tackled that son of a bitch of the problem and you face it with all your strength so the next time you will know how to get back on your feet. Over and over again. Do not be afraid to fail.

I actually love it when people tell me I can’t do something. It just fires a motivation in me and A DESIRE to prove them wrong. I have a very clear idea of what I can do and set my own limits. So when I’m trying to achieve something, to  having new ideas and creating them, I don’t see it as impossible but more like uncharted territories.

That’s it for today! 😀 I’m trying to get back slowly to the blogging platform in the next week ! I hope you all had a nice holiday and may 2018 be a great year for you all!! I’ve missed ALL OF YOU ❤️❤️


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25 thoughts on “What 2017 Taught Me

  1. I am the same way with friends. I hope you have a more relaxed year but being in university that probably won’t happen for awhile. Make sure to have come you time for yourself. Happy New Year 🙂

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  2. As someone who has seen quite a few friends leave my life over the last few years, I completely understand what you are saying. I now have low-maintenance friendships and I find I am actually happier this way. I also find that I don’t stress so much about my friendships because the people I am friends with now, I know that it is an ongoing thing and I don’t need reassurance that I am still on the “in”.

    Putting yourself first is so incredibly important. It is hard, especially when you have comments on your blog and you get behind in looking at other bloggers posts, but at the end of the day you need to focus on yourself. I have found that other bloggers in this community are really understanding about this.

    I haven’t posted much over the last couple of months, but I am hoping to get back into it again this year. I hope you have a wonderful 2018 🙂

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  3. No one can live without friends, people that say they can are just living a lie. But friends do constantly change. Last year my best friend left the place where I work at, and I will see her less. Even though I know we will stay in touch, things are going to be different now. It happens and it’s part of life. But that doesn’t mean that it’s something you will get used to.
    It’s great to also think of yourself. Blogging is a lot of fun, but it should not become first, especially not when the real world at times interferes. And as your posts are always amazing, I know I speak for pretty much everyone here, that they are worth the wait. Hope the new year is going to be awesome for you ! 😀

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  4. Man it was so warming to read your post, bec in November I was exactly at this point and I felt like I was the only one losing out on friends. I started beating myself up for it thinking maybe I’m not good enough. But like you said, some people are just periodic. That shit happens. I honestly feel so much more normal after reading this.
    Good luck for your new yearrr!❤️

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  5. This is such a great post, Trang! ❤ It is true that friends come and go, I have learned that as well and some people just… well, they are just passing by, really, here for a particular period of time, but not meant to stay forever. It's such an important lesson to learn.
    I really, really need to learn to put myself first this year, haha, you will have to teach me how 😛

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  6. I learned the friend lesson the hard way this year. It was tough to lose a friend of more than twenty years, but it was even more difficult to hang it with someone who didn’t like anything I did or said 😫😖

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  7. So true. Everything here, especially putting yourself first. I’m sure I’m not the only one who missed your posts and comments in December, but I’ll definitely be here waiting patiently for your full return!
    Happy New Year 🙂

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  8. I really loved this post Trang. ❤ I think these are really great lessons to have learnt, and to come away from the year with them in mind. I've lost friends throughout the year, just grown apart from people, it happens, but I know the important people are still in my life and it's nice to know we're all still there for each other even though there will be times when she don't talk for a while. 🙂 Personally I'm still trying to learn the 'put myself first lessons' but baby steps. I think I improve a little each year. 😀
    Great post, and I think this was a brilliant year to start your 2018 blogging year as well. 🙂 ❤

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  9. Just wait until you get to the age where you’re still friends with people, but for one reason or another, you just can’t find the time for them anymore. Then suddenly a few years later, you’ll find the time again.

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  10. This post is everything! I’ve experienced all the things you’ve talked about in 2017, although some lessons I already knew, and I couldn’t agree more with you! Especially about the putting yourself first, because if you don’t, you can’t be 100% present with others, or in your life and activities. Fantastic post! ❤

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  11. Beautiful post and reminder Trang! Thank you 💗 So much truth here. I have alwayd told myself that everyone is meant to impact our lives in various and unique ways. For some this will mean a lasting relationship, for others I view it as a passing encounter that managed to help shape me and leave the necessary marks. I have also learned (the hard way) as I get older that placing my own needs and dreams first is not only okay but also beneficial to my relationship with others. It seems you get that. May you totally own 2018 😘

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  12. Wow Trang! What a motivational post you posted!!! I am so blessed and thankful to be your friend. I’m so sorry you are overwhelmed with being busy. I can’t imagine. I was getting together all the stuff I have to do and got overwhelmed myself and I don’t even work. I loved this post so much and it gave me the motivation I needed but it also comforted me not to let all my blogging and reviews overwhelm me. You are very talented girl and you got this!😘🤗 Thanks so much for sharing this!!!💙💛💚💖

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  13. Some great points there. And def “Be a warrior of your ambitions” so you can achieve what you want to do. I’ve learned that peeps are willing to help and mentor you when they see how dedicated you are to goals you’re trying to pursue.

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  14. Oh gosh I was having this *exact* conversation with my mum about this the other day and she was telling me that, yes, some friendships are more rooted in the moment, which is fine. I also tend to have more low-maintenance friends, cos you know, LIFE happens, but when we hang out or chat it’s always the same. And yes, I’m slowly learning the lesson that sometimes I can’t keep at everything all the time without getting exhausted- I really relate. And gosh love that “be a warrior of your own ambitions”- amazing! I so agree about being told I can’t do something by the way- it really fires me up! Amazing post!!


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